Splitting up can be very devastating and painful part of our lives. By reading on, you will  be able to learn the advice I’ve learned over the years that might help you to move on, make things right between you and your ex or even give your relationship a second chance.

The reasons behind the split up don’t matter, all relationships that end have either one or both of the people involved needing space from the relationship. Use your time apart as chance to learn many things. You could use the time apart as a chance to date other people, explore life as a single person, reevaluate your goals and your life. You could do anything with that time apart. If you’re the one that got dumped, then your partner just needed to step back and reevaluate the situation and see what their options are.

I advise you to give your partner the space that they need. You will push them further away from you if you keep bugging them about reconciling. Understand that they need space and if you keep calling or texting them, they are going to push you away further because you aren’t giving them the space they need. You will still have to give them the space they are asking for even if you just want to stay in contact to maintain a friendship or as a way to eventually get back together. If you get what I’m saying, then giving them the space they need shouldn’t be too difficult.

The advice I give my friends when they are going through this is to take two weeks to about a month to stop contacting their ex. This step is not easy. Oh, I know how tempting it is to call, text or email your ex, it can be agonizing to fight back those urges.

Allowing him to have the space he needs will give him a chance to miss you. You will surely be on his mind when you give him the space he needs. He will be thinking of all the great times you guys have shared together. You’ve heard that saying, “absence makes the heart grow fonder.”

This rule is also good for you too. This time alone will give you a chance to decompress from all the messy feelings that coincide with a recent break up. Time apart can also give you a chance to decide whether or not this relationship is worth saving. You can use this time to explore new things and meet some interesting people too. You might learn that you are better off without him.

Hey, maybe your ex will be the one contacting you. It may feel like your prayers are answered if you’ve done all you can to get him back only to find all you’ve done was shove him away.

In conclusion, if you find yourself being dumped,follow my tips and don’t call your ex for a few weeks. These might be trying times for you but I promise you that giving him space will improve the situation.

If you enjoyed this article, also check out Advice for People in Break Ups, How to Fix a Broken Heart, and How to Live with a Break Up.

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