If you’re involved in a troubled relationship, you may be thinking of spending some time away from your boyfriend or girlfriend. This isn’t the same thing as a real break up, although it can feel like one. This type of separation usually happens when a couple is unsure as to whether or not they really should split up. This happens whenever a couple feels that something must be done.

This period of time during which couples separate is basically a way of saying, “we need to spend some time away from each other, just to re-evaluate our relationship.” Its ambiguity can cause this period of time to be as frustrating and stressful as a real break up—especially since the rules of trial separations aren’t all that clear.
Does this really help a relationship?

It’s all very complicated. If you’re currently separated from your boyfriend or girlfriend, you probably feel as if you’re in some sort of limbo because you can’t act very normally, despite the fact you still have feelings for them. You may even act like you’re still with them sometimes. It’s one of the more confusing ways to save a relationship.

There are many reasons why couples try this. Some of the common reasons include:

·    They want to try playing it safe. As mentioned above, some couples just want to make sure they’re making the right decision of whom they want to be with. At the same time, they also want some security just in case they don’t find another solution.

·    They want to try being “single” for a short amount of time in order to experience what they couldn’t while in a relationship—this might include dating other people, making new friends, starting a new business, and other things that could ordinarily cause a relationship problem otherwise.

·    Some couples want to try testing the bonds of their relationship to see how they truly feel about one another. This occurs when one wants commitment while the other one doesn’t. The one who doesn’t want commitment will sometimes try to “push” the other one into a separation period.

It’s important for the couple to understand that they need to give one another space and work on the problem areas that lead to a trial separation in the first place. Is the relationship really all that bad off? Is it really one in which you want to be involved?

Keep in mind that this could be an easy way out of a relationship that was never meant to be anyway. Or, you could start anew and create something that will last. Either way, the separation could be a good thing.

Clearly, you’ll have to give your boyfriend or girlfriend some space, but ensure that both of you understand the agreements of what you can do and what you can’t do during while separated. Open communication and having an open mind is extremely important if you really want to save your relationship. If you realize that it’s not for you in the end, then that could be a good thing too.

Copyright Gene Elias (Relationship Expert)

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